BabyCenter has just released their list of the top names of 2007. It turns out that the name I actually cried over when I heard my cousin wanted to use it for their baby if it's a boy, is the number one name of 2007. I don't even know if we would have used that name because J hasn't been thrilled about it, but I had thought it sounded trendy yet still unique and I really liked it. (Plus, I liked that one of J's sisters had suggested it to us.) But now that I know that name is so popular, I'm really leaning against it. I think J is relieved.
Looking over the list, I see other names that I liked that are also high on the list. And it's making me realize that if my criteria is cool yet unique names, that I can't go by my own experiences. Just because I don't know any guys named Aiden, Ethan, or Jacob (to pick the top three on the BabyCenter list) only means that those names weren't popular in the 70's when all my friends were born. I don't know many people with kids and, in spite of what you'd expect given my research interests, I am not actually testing that many kids, so I don't really have a clue what the popular names are today. Earlier this morning I read that a name that J likes that is actually the name of a character on a popular tv show of the same name. But how would we know that - we don't watch children's tv! Maybe I should use a little reverse psychology and pick from the top names in the 70's and then I would be assured a currently unique name. :)
Not that our baby's name is exclusively my decision. J's been very involved in looking for names and even bought a huge book of 100,001 names, and I think he's read through it about three times already. But so far we haven't hit upon a name that we both really like. We have some choices that overlap, but we keep having different personal favorites.
I'm being deliberately vague here about our previous and current favorite names for a few reasons, the main one being the overlap in choice of name with my cousin. I don't think she even reads this blog regularly, but just in case she's leaning towards another name and it's a name that I'm also currently leaning towards, I just don't want to have to go through the turmoil of worrying about who "gets" to use it. I also don't want to put Ianqui through that since she doesn't yet know if they're having a girl or a boy.
I do really want to have the name picked out soon. For months we have been calling this baby Vladimir, but not because we like or intend to use the name. In fact, at first, the fact that I didn't like the name was a good thing because I could blame Vladimir for my fatigue without feeling like I was really blaming my child - it's not our baby doing this to me, it's the curse of Vladimir! But now as the due date gets closer and I feel and see his little body parts pushing against my skin and I see other previously pregnant bloggers I had been reading now giving birth to real human babies (not little nonvaible embryos like I used to imagine inside of me), I'm really starting to understand that there is a real person inside of me. A real child - our child - and I want him to have a name.
I never really thought much about names until we named our cats. But now when I say Tako or Koji, I mean those specific little furry creatures that I love. And now we use their names as adjectives for their personality characteristics whenever we see them in other people; we'll comment about how someone is "such a Tako" or "totally a Koji". It's not that I really love those names, but they are more than a label for our black cat or our striped cat. So I guess that's why I want a name for our baby soon because I want to be able to talk to and about him in an endearing way, and not in an impersonal way by referring to "our baby" or even Vladimir, which I know is just a stand in.
Maybe I should get cracking on that list of 100,001 names...